"Gay" or "Homosexual"? You decide.....

I haven't posted in this thing for years. Sheesh! I forgot about it!

I'm glad that I never deleted this. Looking back on the previous posts reminded me of why I became a gay-rights activist in the first place.

Good for me to have rediscovered my own sounding board for this issue, because after all of this time, I'm going to use it again.

You ever notice how the religious right keeps using the term "homosexual"? Seriously.

We as a community call ourselves many different things; gay, lesbian, dyke, fag, queer, woman-loving-woman, man-loving-man, etc....

Yet in every conversation you hear, they keep using the word "homosexual".

Homosexual.
Homosexual.
Homosexual.

Is that all I am really am?

No.

I am more than my genitalia, yet, that's all the so-called "religious" right can focus on. What I do with my genitalia, and, who's doing what to it.

Dictionary.com defines the term "homosexual" as such;

Of, relating to, or having a sexual orientation to persons of the same sex.

I am more than this. I am more than my "sexual orientation".

I am representative of those who want and deserve access to the civil right of marriage.

I am a part of the continuing gay-rights movement, a movement that now wants what everyone else has...the right to a civil marriage.

But, that's another post.

Why do those crazy religious right-wingers use the term "homosexual"?

To dehumanize us. To break us down, all the way down to one of our most basic parts; our genitals.

The term makes us look like sexy-crazed freaks. Like all we care about is sex and gender.

Yes, I do have what I feel is a built-in genetic trait that makes me attracted to the persons of the same gender, but, I also have two other things that the religious whackos never talk about.....

A mind that tells me when my attraction is just physical, or could be something more. It tells me to hug a woman before I kiss her, and to ask before I kiss. It tells me how to have a conversation with the woman in front of me before I become attracted to her. It tells me when a woman I meet won't be anything more than a date.

A heart that tells me that I grow to care about this woman as a whole, not just her genitals. A heart that tells me whether she is the one that I want to spend the rest of my life with or not. One that when we have sex, it's not just "having sex", but making love to her, mind, body and soul. A heart that hurts when my fellow man looks at me dead in the face and says that I don't deserve to have the same things and rights that they have.


These two things you will never hear an anti-gay bigot talk about in their hate speech.


These anti-gay bigots seem to be at the ready with quotes from the bible to throw at any gay person fighting for their rights.

But I have these questions to ask.......

If being gay is so bad, why isn't it a Commandment?

If being gay is so bad, why didn't Jesus Christ, the Son of God Himself, ever preach against it?

Reading the Book of Leviticus, there are two parts that I wish to point out, Parts III and IV.

Part III contains the Laws Regarding Legal Purity. This part contains verses pertaining to such things as women who are menstruating and touching the skin of dead animals. It says that women are "unclean" during and for seven days after their period. It says that anything that a menstruating woman touches or sits on is "unclean" until sundown. It also states that you must not touch the skin or eat of a dead animal, or, again, you will be "unclean" until said time.

Okay....so, if you sleep next to your wife while she is on the rag or have sex with her, or if you are either a football, soccer or baseball player, yes, that's right, you've committed an act of impurity and you must all go and cleanse youselves... you filthy people.

Part IV, The Code of Legal Holiness, contains passages against the homosexual act itself, along with other "carnal" crimes, such as incest and adultery.

Here's the fun part!

Crimes, according to the Bible, you must die for by stoning!!!

Cursing your mother or your father
Committing adultery
Son sleeping with his stepmother
Father sleeping with his daughter-in-law
Man lies with a man as with a woman (notice that it doesn't say woman lies with a woman as with a man)
Man marries a woman and her mother (How do you think that polygamists should take that one?)
Man has carnal relations with an animal
Woman has carnal relations with an animal

So, let me get this right.....the religious right thinks it's okay to commit adultery and screw around with animals, but the second that someone says they're gay, they are evil, will burn in Hell and the evil "homosexual agenda" must be stopped!

I do not know of any religious organization that goes after adulterers and animal fuckers with such public zeal and pride.

My point is this; these are people who have chosen to not only make one of God's Laws more important than the others, but, have pushed and are still pushing to make their interpretation of that Law public policy and civil law. Their interpretation is that all acts of homosexuality, regardless if it is in the context of two people who love each other or not, is wrong, evil and against the Law of God, even though one can clearly see that all of these Laws were written in the context of carnal desires.

What does the Bible say about gays and lesbians in loving relationships who want to be committed to each other?

Nothing.

Who are these people who have decided to not only embrace the anti-gay bigoted mantra and elevate one Law above the rest?

Playing God.

I would rather stand in judgment before God as a lesbian than as one of these gay-bashing bigots. I don't play God; they do.

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You see, the right's convenient interpretation of God's Law fits right into their grand plan for all of us queers. At least, so long as they keep calling us "homosexuals".

We live in such an uptight, repressive "free" society that mention of the word "sex" often brings about feelings of disgust and filth, images of something raw, rough, unloving and an act which contains no accountability either from or to the parties involved.

Because the Law clearly condemns the act of homosexuality, not of being in a loving gay relationship in which sex is just a part of, the right has to keep using the term "homosexual", referring to the carnal aspect, making us all look like sex fiends who cannot be in committed relationships and therefore should not have equal access to the civil institution of marriage. This is one big part of their success in ensuring that LGBTQQ folk are not equal US citizens.

The saddest part of all of this is that America is unable to see one simple fact about these people. These are people that are obsessed with my genitalia. These people want to be able to tell me what to do with my body and to make sure that I do as they say.

These are people who want to be the ultimate peeping toms, and are the ultimate perverts.

God Speaks to those Who Listen

I know I haven't updated this thing in several weeks, and, that is my bad.

But, this post is one of several to make up for that.

Remember the dirty and underhanded way that Bush won Florida?

It's coming back to haunt them.

Click here to find out what I'm talking about.

You'll notice that Miama/Dade was spared from pretty much all of the hurricanes' fury this season. You'll also notice that they voted Democratic.

Sometimes, all you have to do is listen.

Flip Flop

So, while recently visiting Australia, the pope "flip-flopped" on his stance of gay marriage.

Here's his new slogan;

"Spouses rightly deserve specific and categorical legal recognition by the state," the pope said, "while any attempt to equate marriage with other forms of cohabitation violates its unique role in God's plan for humanity."

Wow, so, just a few months ago, you were saying that gay marriages shouldn't be recognized in any form, now you're saying that civil unions are just fine. Wow, is "God's" flock leaving the church in higher numbers than usual? Tough, you twat.

You're the one who willingly bathes himself in silks and gold while the very son of God Himself, Jesus, was the son of a carpenter and lived from hobble to hobble on people's charity. You who says that the eurcharist should be withheld from openly gay parishioners while Jesus sacrificed Himself for everyone, gay and straight.

Even Mexicans who come here from Mexico see the hypocrisy of your "rule". Your church tells them to be fruitful and multiply, that God will take care of them, even though the bible clearly states that God takes care of those who take care of themselves. You withhold condoms saying that they are against God's Law while children suffer and die from diseases that are virtually non-existent in developed countries, all the while you do nothing to fix or improve the quality of life for these very children you wanted born in the first place.

Selfish bastard. You keep forgetting that you and I will be judged by the same God. I'm pretty sure he keeps track of everything, while judging feather for feather and lead for lead.

Who died and made you God again?

So, it looks like the pope is tossing his opinion where it doesn't (and shouldn't) count.

He recently visited Canada, expressing his view against gay marriage, where it is legal in three of the provinces, accounting for 70% of Canada's population.

"Any attempts to change the meaning of the word 'spouse' contradict right reason: legal guarantees, analogous to those granted to marriage, cannot be applied to unions between persons of the same sex without creating a false understanding of the nature of marriage."

So, what is the nature of marriage, Pope John Paul "I think I'm God" II? You think you know so much, don't you?

Let's take a real look at the "nature" of marriage, shall we?

For centuries, it was used solely for financial and social gain. That's right, financial and social gain. Parents would prearrange marriages so that it would benefit both families, under the thinly veiled guise of "procreation". This has been going on since civilization became, well, civilized.

The concept of romance and responsibility is a new concept, created in the past several hundred centuries. This brings about images of shot-gun weddings and romance of the Romeo & Juliet style. Even then, procreation was not a focus of marriage, but, simply a duty. Ultimately, the honor and the status of the families involved were the driving force. Not having kids.

When the human race was young and uncivilized, marriage did not exist. Our species knew only to mate and have children. Even the concept of a woman's monthly cycle was created so that man would not be sure when a woman was ready to mate. This evolutionary step gave way to the concept of a bond between men and women, but, not an obligation. Just a bond.

Only with civilization did the idea of marriage come about. Once humans became more "aware" did the purpose of marriage change. It became an issue of material gain, not procreation. Only in the poorer sects of society did the ideal of procreation exist, those sects outside of the "mainstream" religion, which was paganism, and, now is Christianity/Catholicism.

So, taking the Pope's own statement, this is a perfect argument for the legalization of same-sex marriages, since, over time, our hetero counterparts have mostly used it for ultimate gain, not procreation; it was usually an after-thought, if thought at all. Same sex couples want the legal recognition of their love; they want the benefits of marriage so that they can start families and keep the ones they have already.

So, who really has the "false understanding of the nature of marriage", Mr. I'm supposed to be a virgin but I really have six kids? Monster.

Read the story here.

Did you ever hear about the Old Testament?

So, another discussion has been started at EMN. It's something that I want to talk about because the whole idea is attractive to me not only because I am Catholic, but, because I went to Sunday school and this touches me in a personal way.

Here goes the statement;

from the NY Times

Aug. 30) - Mary Cheney, the daughter and chief campaign manager of Vice President Dick Cheney, had just slipped out of the room at a Davenport, Iowa, town hall meeting last week when her father publicly acknowledged for the first time that she was openly lesbian and that he disagreed with the president's support for an amendment banning same-sex marriage. If Ms. Cheney was gratified by his remarks about gay marriage, she has not let it show, two campaign aides said. But aides say she was clearly displeased the next day to find the cameras of the traveling press corps craning for shots of her face.

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Social conservatives like Gary Bauer, who ran for the Republican presidential nomination four years ago, complain that Mr. Cheney's public support for his daughter "demoralizes some sections of the base that they need in an election where we could all be counting chads again.''
Gay rights advocates, on the other hand, accuse Ms. Cheney of selling out gays to aid her father's campaign.
"There is a profound sense of bewilderment bordering on betrayal," said Matt Foreman, executive director of the Gay and Lesbian Taskforce. "How is it possible that you could be working so hard for an administration that is so against your basic life, so against you and any family aspirations you might have, and against your people? I understand father-daughter ties, but it seems impossible to reconcile." Ms. Cheney, through a campaign spokeswoman, declined to be interviewed.

I wouldn't want to be interviewed either if I was being viewed as a sell-out. But, that's not the point of this post. Mary is a sellout.

The point of this post is the fact that all of these so-called "righteous" people keep quoting the New Testament, where the hatred of gays is fueled.

It sickens me to know that Dick Cheney would sell out his child. Not for his religion, not for a cause, but, for his job. A job! What kind of sick person sells out their child for a job? A desperate person, a person who feels that they have no other choice. A scared person.

What sickens me even more is that Mary Cheney is allowing herself to be sold out. That's right folks, she's allowing herself to be sold out. Instead of standing up for herself and others like her, she is simply stepping aside, letting her father and millions of Americans shit on her. It's not me they are shitting on, I'm standing up for myself, I'm out there talking to people and getting the word out. She is doing nothing. I can't have sympathy for someone who can't even fight for themselves. I've wallowed in enough self-pity in my time to have sympathy for someone who is doing it themselves. I just can't.

The bigger issue here is this; these people are claiming to follow the bible extensively, and, are saying that being gay is a crime against God Himself. If you actually read the bible, it's everybody but God saying that it's a crime against Him. I'm sorry, but, if it were such a big deal, it would have been in the 10 Commandments. I have to say it because it's true. It wouldn't be with the laws like men not being able to sleep with their wives while they are menstruating or not wearing clothes that are of mixed thread. It would be in the Ten Commandments. As for the "law" being put there in the first place, please feel free to read my response to "Lie #5" in my 8/28 post.

There is a story in the bible that has long been forgotten due to it's placement amongst the whole "then so-and-so begat so-and-so, then begat so-and-so" and so on. How people can listen to that on audio tapes is beyond me. I'd simply throw that tape out.

It's the story of Abraham and Isaac. Abraham was told by God to sacrifice Isaac to Him. Abraham brought Isaac to Mount Horeb and was prepared to do so until God stopped him. God said that He did not want Abraham to sacrifice his son, and, instead, a ram was in Isaac's place.

Think about that.

God did not want Abraham to sacrifice his son after all.

It's very powerful.

It could mean simply that God did not want human sacrifices made in His honor.

Or.

That God did not want Abraham, or any parent to sacrifice their child, either to God or for God.

So this brings about the question, what is sacrifice?

Is it the parent who beats their child to death because they wouldn't stop crying?

Is it the parent who starves their child to death so that they can eat?

Is it the man and woman who decide to end a life before it has started so that the child will never suffer the agony and misery of a genetic disorder?

These things can be defined as murder or killing. Not sacrifice.

But,

What about the parent who throws their child out because their child is gay, and, the bible says it's wrong?

What about the sister that giggles gleefully over the fact that she has run her sister and her sister's lover out of town because the bible says that being gay is wrong?

Haven't these people sacrificed in the name of God?

Think about it.

Just another day in Paradise

So, the Republicans have lined up yet another anti-gay bigot for their show starting tomorrow, Bishop Keith Butler of Michigan. The party won't highlight the fact that he's staunchly anti-gay, but, courtesy of AMERICAblog, here's his deal;

This is outright recruitment of young people into this decadent lifestyle. Common sense tells us that if this lifestyle were to become the dominant choice of our culture, our culture would soon be extinct.We also find that the gay community's attempt to tie their pursuit of special rights based on their behavior to the civil rights movement of the 1960's -1970's abhorrent. Being black is not a lifestyle choice. You can physically see and determine our heritage. We are a race of people. Whereas, regarding the gay community, people do not know what they do in the bedroom unless they publicize it. The civil rights struggle was based on the depriving of human beings the most basic human rights simply because of the color of their skin. Our opposition to the gay lifestyle is based on a behavior choice that endangers family, children, and the core of society. The attempt to push into mainstream society this decadent lifestyle and to brand those who oppose it as haters is simply wrong.The Bible teaches us to love the person, but to hate the sin they may do. We love those who at this time are gay, but reject what they are doing and promoting. It's time to stand up and oppose this attempt to change our society and we will.

Wow, my lifestyle is decadent; I didn't know that, why didn't somebody tell me this?

Decadent (according to dictionary.com)


1. Being in a state of decline or decay.
2. Marked by or providing unrestrained gratification; self-indulgent

Well, I don't think that gays rights movement is in a state of decline or decay, as a matter of fact, we're just getting started.

I'm not showing any unrestrained gratification nor am I self-indulgent; I am a poor-ass middle class working woman who isn't getting enough hours at her job because of the crappy economy that good ol' Dubya created with his dumbass self. I've spent the entire day working on my resume, cover letter and verifying references. How I am supposed to be indulgent or gratified? I'm broke and single. How indulgent that does sound to you, for fuck's sake?

If working towards marriage rights is self-indulgent or self-gratification, then you know what, I'm guilty.

As for the civil rights analogy to our struggle, I can tell you this; the real reason why so many African Americans are getting worked up about it is because this movement doesn't just include their own kind, there are Hispanics and whites involved too. African Americans needed laws to pay attention to the needs of their people due to discrimination; it's the exact same thing gays need to. If it looks like it, walks like it and talks like it........

I don't know of any straight people that feel their marriage is in danger if I want to get married. I don't remember reading anywhere that when gays win the right to marry, that all of the straight marriages will be automatically annulled. As for the argument of family, why would a society decide to not assist in the creation of more family units when the true concept of family in this nation is endangered by divorce and lack of responsibility of our hetero counterparts. Wouldn't you want to ensure that the concept of family is in full force so that those that may be irresponsible will lean towards being responsible?
I'm not saying that everybody should go and get married; there are plenty of hetero couples who choose not to marry, which is fine. All I'm saying is that I should have the right to marry, without objection or void by law; civil institutions are my right by the Constitution itself. Everyone is created equal; some people have forgotten that.

Religious Lies & The Lying Religious Liars Who Tell Them (parts 1 & 2)

I am copying these from my blog so that you can read them in a more consistent matter. These are 10 "Lies that Gay Right Activists Tell" that some right wing group put up on their website that I decided to respond to.

You know, I just had to do this. I saw this site link from No Milk Please, and, I just had to do my own list (with apologies to Al Franken, if you ever read this). My comments are italicized.

Lie number one Opposition of gay demands for marriage is a Republican political attack against gay people.Truth: There are numerous lawmakers from both political parties who have taken a strong stand against homosexual marriage. In Michigan, Democrat Triette Reeves and in Ohio Republican Ken Blackwell, both African Americans have strongly supported constitutional amendments limiting marriage to one and one woman.

First off, it is a Republican attack against gay people that good ol' Bush himself started. The real reason why members of both parties have jumped on the anti-gay bandwagon is because they believe that America is conservative, when in fact, Americans just don't give a shit, or, if they do, they just haven't vocalized it yet. As for the naming of the African American politicians, the explanation is simple. Homosexuality is frowned upon in that community, to the excessive point of raping, beating and killing. It is even more so for African American men. Radical fanatics like those who support anti-gay legislation believe that such things as homosexuality and abortion (insert Alan Keyes) will be the end of their race. Um, so, let me get this right, you've survived the invasion of multiple peoples, slavery, racism, wrongful occupation, the creation of a social system in this nation that is specifically designed to oppress the African American people, and, you're worried about a couple of homos and a few women who realize that they shouldn't have opened up their legs. As far as I am concerned, you are sooooo short changing your race. If I were an African American, I'd take you out back and kick your ever-loving ass for insulting my kind.

Lie number two Gay marriage will hurt no one.Truth: Gay marriage removes the only barrier to marriage between any variance of sexual choices. It will hurt children because pedophiles and polygamysts will claim their "rights" under these same false objections.

So, what we have here is just stupidity. What gay activist have you seen holding signs saying "Legalize pedophilia! Molesting kids is not wrong!" or "Polygamy rocks! Having six underage wives is so hot." I haven't. I've said this before, and, I'll say it again, the only sick people in this fight are the ones who keep thinking the sick stuff up.

Lie number three There's nothing wrong with two same sex people wanting to commit their lives to one another.Truth: Many scientific reports have proven that homosexuals are at high risk in every category of brokenness, suicidal tendencies, violence, disease, and even death. Why would anyone want to encourage or support, let alone codify into law, relationships that are setups for failure? With high incidences of breast cancer among lesbians and AIDS among homosexual men, we should never accept that homosexuality is anything less than dangerous, destructive and deceptive. What's more our fundamental morals and simple conscience tell us that two individuals of the same gender were never intended nor encouraged by the Creator to engage in sexual relations.

It's true, there are many studies that prove that gays all around are more susceptible to these factors. Unfortunately, the real reason why is because of such propaganda as this. The hostility faced by many newly out gays is overwhelming, and, the pressure and hatred from family is even worse. When my mother found out that I was gay, she threatened to tell my dad saying that he would throw me out; she tried to use the secret of my sexuality to manipulate me and control me. And people, this is my mother I'm talking about; mother who is supposed to be protector and nurturer was gonna sell me out. And she's Catholic. Yeah, no pressure here, let me tell you.
As for the breast cancer incidences, this is also true. Lesbians smoke and drink more than their hetero counterparts, for the above reason. Another factor is because same sex partners don't get the insurance benefits that their hetero counterparts can, even if they aren't married.
As for the AIDS thing, unfortunately, it's not entirely accurate. African Americans from ages 16-24 are the highest growing bracket of new AIDS cases, and, most of them aren't gay. Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong, but, I think that African Americans have passed up gays as a whole as the #1 social group with AIDS cases. Many of them aren't getting help because of the risk of discrimination, harassment by neighbors or even death. Are you beginning to see the cycle of oppression I'm talking about?
As for the "fundamental morals" and "simple conscience", my fundamental morals tell me not to kill another human being because they are something I am not. My fundamental morals tell me not to pass judgment on other people lives by hating them. My fundamental morals tell me that I should love my children above all else, including God himself (conveniently, the Bible says that too). My simple conscience tells me that I cannot hide or deny who and what I am. My simple conscience tells me that I am what my maker made me. My simple conscience tell me that I am what I am because of my genetic code, the same code you are made up of as well. My fundamental morals tell me that I should love my neighbor, even if they hate me. My simple conscience tell me that if the son of God embraced lepers and the the poor, you should be able to embrace me. But obviously, you and I have different Gods, don't we?

Lie number four Gay marriages are civil and won't affect churches or religious organizations in any way.Truth: Homosexual activists have already sued, threatened, harassed and intimidated churches and religious groups in numerous areas for so called "discrimination".

This is probably news to me and every body else I know. Suing for equal rights and treatment is not harassment. If there have ever been threats, I'm sure it's been along the lines of "I'm gonna sue you people and make you serve me in this restaurant". All real gay activists want is the civil marriage. I could give two shits if the pope ever codifies my marriage to a woman; last time I checked, his name wasn't God.
If there has been any vigilantism, it has been on the part of radical gay "gangs" who simply go and dish out to the radical right what they have been dishing to us for decades. I whole-heartily disagree with this tactic, but, as Jesus said "Do unto others as you would have done unto you." Uh, sound familiar? It comes from the same Testament that you keep pulling that whole 'God hates gays" idea from. By the way, that whole Boy Scouts fiasco was a valid lawsuit; don't get pissed off at us because you lost government funding, you're the discriminators, you don't deserve rewards from our treasury for being so.

Lie number five The Bible does not condemn consensual, homosexual sex only rape and violent sex.Truth: The Bible in very clear terminology, condemns all forms of sexual activity outside of the marriage covenant. Not only does the Bible condemn such practices, but so does every other major religion practiced by human beings.

The Bible does condemn homosexuality extensively in the New Testament, that is no lie. People keep quoting the New Testament during their anti-gay speeches. The New Testament damnation of homosexuality is based on 99% theory and suspicion (one of my professors in college used to work in archeological dig sites). During the new years of Christianity, it was often rumored that orgies went on during meetings of pagan sects of the Greek/Roman religion. These orgies were to have included fornication and pedophilia. Since it is human nature to make assumptions about things we don't know, that's exactly what happened in this case. These assumptions then became fact, then laws written into a dogma. (If you've ever read the bible, you'll notice that in the Old Testament, God gives His "no idols above Me" statement; in the New Testament the idea of paganism becomes evil itself.)
And as for the "so does every other major religion practiced by human beings" statement, that's not true either. The two oldest religions known to man are Paganism (in some form) and Judaism. Both, in my experience, have members that are very accepting and positive of gays and gays rights issues. There are entire sects of both populations that don't have any real issues with homosexuality, since both understand that their dogmas are guides for their lives, not dictators of them.

Lie number six Homosexual couples should have the same rights as married heterosexual couples.Truth: As this letter is being sent out every gay American has the same rights under the US Constitution as any other American. However, homosexuals are demanding that laws be created simply to accommodate their choice of sexual behavior.

Well, I didn't know that I had the right to get married? When did that happen? Oh, yeah, that's right, it didn't. Apparently, these people are ignoring the fact that gays get fired because they are gay, gays get discriminated against in housing, employment and in public areas (such as restaurants and retail). Gays aren't trying to push laws that give us "accommodation" for our "choice" of sexual behavior; we are trying to push laws that protect us against discrimination that we face every day. It's kinda like saying that women and African Americans have rights under the same Constitution; they all do, but, special laws had to be created for those groups to emphasize the point. I don't need accommodation for my pre-determined sexual orientation, thank you. I just want equality.

Lie number seven Opponents of gay marriage are "enshrining discrimination" into the Constitution.Truth: The gay movement's perception of anyone and anything which doesn't line up with its contrived orthodoxy is that it is immediately and unquestionably discrimination. By definition, discrimination is not always as evil as it is forced to be. To be truthful, we all discriminate everyday. Discrimination is simply another word for choice. Americans who understand the necessity of preserving the standard of marriage are not enshrining discrimination, they are maintaining what is for the common good for all citizens.

Discrimination is not a perception. Equality is not a contrived orthodoxy. All of these "big words" are a smoke screen put up to disguise these people's hatred of homosexuals. Discrimination can be used as another word for choice; it is also the crutch on which many members of our society lean on instead of opening up their hearts and minds to understanding how others live. If these people were so concerned about preserving the "standard" of marriage, they would be boycotting such shows as "The Swan", "Joe Millionaire" and "The Bachelor/Bachelorette". These TV reality shows are the true mockery of the sanctity of marriage, not a bunch of people who love each other and want to start families trying to get married.
Discrimination is the end result of biases instilled in us by our parents and our society. It is easier to lean against them and hide behind them than it is to shatter them. Hatred is using this unfounded discrimination to restrict and deny individuals their basic human rights. These people hate homosexuals, but, are too cowardly to say it. They spend all their time beating around the bush, instead of saying what they really think. It doesn't surprise me really, after all, they are such cowards that they can't even voice their own convictions, so, it only makes sense that they would be too cowardly to break the mental molds of their own biases.

Lie number eight Denying marriage rights to homosexuals is just like denying rights of interracial couples.Truth: The Loving vs Virginia 1967 Supreme Court decision stated:"Marriage is one of the "basic civil rights of man," fundamental to our very existence and survival. Skinner v. Oklahoma, 316 U.S. 535, 541 (1942). See also Maynard v. Hill, 125 U.S. 190 (1888). To deny this fundamental freedom on so unsupportable a basis as the racial classifications embodied in these statutes, classifications so directly subversive of the principle of equality at the heart of the Fourteenth Amendment, is surely to deprive all the State's citizens of liberty without due process of law. The Fourteenth Amendment requires that the freedom of choice to marry not be restricted by invidious racial discriminations. Under our Constitution, the freedom to marry, or not marry, a person of another race resides with the individual and cannot be infringed by the State."The court made the undeniable point that marriage when it is practiced in its intended form (male-female) it literally ensures the existence and survival of the human race. The court opinions that this is a fundamental purpose of marriage. And for good reason. This is common sense logic. Homosexuals cannot in any possible way, compliment or enhance this powerful dynamic.

If you notice, these people site justices who themselves were ruling against racial discrimination being practiced against African Americans. But,in the very text of this ruling lies the heart and truth of the matter; that laws such as DOMA deprive gays of due process of law. Any organization that sites the very language being used to justify the existence of the gay marriages in the first place obviously doesn't have their shit together. Another fact; there are six billion humans on this planet. If we become extinct, it will be from our own doing. Factors such as hate, misunderstanding, willing ignorance and lack of individual thought, the very essence of anti-gay logic, are the very factors that start wars and divide peoples.

Lie number nine Gay marriage would finally mean full equality for gays and lesbians.Truth: The homosexual movement has become consumed not with simply gaining equality, but seem intent on forcing every person, institution and organization opposed to their agenda to pay a heavy price. This vengeful obsession has become the calling card of one of the most manipulative human campaigns in our nation's history.

I didn't know that the breaking of barriers and shattering of biases were considered to be "heavy" prices. I didn't know that seeking equality was thought to be a "vengeful obession". But, then again, if you are a person that would rather hate than understand, I guess you would be defensive about people who are not like you wanting the same rights you have.

Lie number ten African Americans should support gay marriage because they understand discrimination.Truth: African Americans have demonstrated over and over that they do not support discrimination. However, gay marriage is not an issue of discrimination as much as it is a issue of attempted sexual legitimacy which the public does not embrace and perhaps never will. Sexual activity is not immutable, Immutable means a thing or characteristic which cannot be changed nor it does there exist the possibility of change. Therefore comparisons between the color of one's skin and the sexual conduct of homosexuals are not valid. this is important because homosexuals have asserted that they cannot change therefore, they are to be protected as a "minority". That would be a true statement, except there are thousands of exhomosexuals (exgays) who are proof that sexuality and the expression of it is a choice, therefore does not qualify as "discrimination."

Gay marriage is an issue of discrimination. What kills me even more is that there are African American groups out there who are against gay marriage for their own kind. African Americans are fully aware of discrimination to an extent that I as a Mexican who looks pretty "white" will never understand. But, then again, I've had cops stare at me because of what I do. I've been seated at the back of the restaurant because I was with my girlfriend. I've had to fight to get served at a restaurant because the maitre'd kept pushing my name back further and further down the list. I've had people call me names while I sit and eat lunch at work. I've had people throw rocks at my car because I had a pride flag sticker on it. I've been targeted by managers for demotion because I'm openly gay. It's not like I can really hide it anyway, it's who I am.
As for the ex-gays statement. I have yet to meet or hear about an "ex-gay" whose "rehabilitation" didn't break down after being exposed to the lifestyle once again. The reality of such "rehabilitation" programs is that they beat down individuals who are insecure about their homosexuality with their hate speech against homosexuals. They pressure these people back into the hetero lifestyle without regard for the punishment they dish out, or, the eventual cost of the turmoil this treatment places inside the very soul of this person for the rest of their life.
These individuals often marry other "ex-gays" as proof that they are "reformed". To boot, they are often encouraged (read: forced) to have children as proof.
These "ex-gays" then live their lives in the very communities that they were "reformed" in. They almost never leave. The "counselors" at these places have realized the very powerful tool of nurture, and, the even more powerful effect of public perception. People are often so worried about what others think about them, they will lie in every way possible to maintain the facade of their lives.
My sexuality is immutable. The thought of a man touching me in a sexual manner is physically repulsive. There have been times were I have found myself gagging after dealing with a man who wanted to pick me up at a bar. The very "smell" of men makes me sick, literally. Let's just assume here that it's their phermones. If their phermones can make me sick, how is it that my sexuality is, changeable, like the clothes off of a Barbie doll.
If you think that sexuality is not immutable, let me pose you this challenge; you go on and hook yourself up with someone of your sex, make them fall in love with you, and you fall in love with them in turn. You go have a loving relationship with them, and, when that falls apart, go back to the opposite sex, say you're happy with them, and, I'll worship the ground you walk on for being ruler of your genetic material. Then I'll get right on about not being gay anymore.
Dare ya!

Why?

I am doing this because quite honestly, I am sick and tired of hearing all of the shit that the religious right spews forth about women and homosexuality. In this blog, I will copy statements made by religious leaders and explain why I think they are wrong. These explanations are usually too long for my regular blog. It's up to you whether you want to believe what I say; unlike the President or the religious right, I won't shove this down your throat and make you think like me. I understand that you are a human with your own mind and thought process, with your own opinions. I'm just giving you my side of the coin.